Monday, February 27, 2012

A Perpetual Case of the Mondays

"This is the day that the Lord has made;
We will rejoice and be glad in it." (Psalm 118:24)

Happy Monday to all my sweet friends (and new followers)!  I am starting this post off with a joyful greeting but honestly, this morning started off as anything but.  Ok, please tell me if I'm alone here, but does anyone else wake up on Monday morning in an absolute funk? ;)  Now, I'm only half serious about whether or not I'm the only one; with songs like Manic Monday, I Don't Like Mondays, and Blue Monday, I think it's pretty much a given that the majority of us have experienced the occasional case of the Mondays.  However, what I've been going through lately hasn't been just a once in a while.  Rather, it feels as though in many ways I've gotten stuck in a perpetual case of the Mondays.  Today was no exception, and without getting into too much detail, I, unfortunately, ended up spreading my "funk" to someone I care for very deeply.

On average, we will each go through about 4,040 Mondays in our lifetimes (I like to think I got an extra one since I was born on a Monday).  That comes to more than eleven years of Mondays!!  Unreal!!  I can't even begin to fathom wasting eleven years of my life feeling sorry for myself, depressed, annoyed, etc., but when I wake up with that attitude on Mondays, that is exactly what I am doing.  Imagine how different it would be if I chose to take on a more positive and thankful approach to the day...those eleven years would be enjoyed and cherished and I would look back on them and smile.

Now I don't know how each of you responds to Mondays, but if you're anything like me it probably isn't the best.  I would like to challenge everyone (myself included) to adopt a more grateful and joyous attitude on Monday morning.  Remember, it's eleven years of your life, you can determine how you spend them!!

xo BG

Sunday, February 12, 2012

I Didn't Know My Own Strength

I like many of you was deeply saddened to hear of Whitney Houston's untimely passing.  All I could think about was her poor daughter.  I wonder, how at only eighteen will she be able to cope with such a devastatingly tragic loss? 

Being a child of the 80s and 90s, I have very vivid and fond memories of singing and dancing to Whitney's many hit songs.  I Wanna Dance with Somebody and How Will I Know were two of my absolute favorites.  I can remember getting out my crimping iron and magenta lipstick thinking I looked (and sounded) just like Whitney (haha!!).  Although her music inspired me in a very special way as a young girl, it was a song released towards the end of her career that truly touched my heart.

In 2009, during what many hoped would be her biggest comeback yet, Whitney released her album entitled  I Look to You.  Back then, I had just returned to my hometown after spending four years in Texas and was struggling with the trials and tribulations of life.  Wondering if moving back was the right decision and feeling dissatisfied and unhappy with my life, I remember searching for something to offer me some sense of peace and consolation.  I prayed and at times felt as though things were just never going to get any better.  That is when I heard the beautiful song, I Didn't Know My Own Strength.

Listening to the track, the strain that "life" had taken on Whitney's magical and glorious voice is quite apparent.  However, through the scratchiness and a few missed notes, I was able to feel the light and strength that was still very much alive in her (and in myself).  I listened to this song practically nonstop, at times crying while singing along but always feeling empowered and uplifted once it was over. 

My life changed in so many amazing ways and I am in a completely different place than I was back then.  However,  I can't help but feel a little saddened at knowing that while Whitney was able to reach me (and so many others), she wasn't able to reach herself.  If only she could have felt the true meaning of the words she sang, perhaps we wouldn't be mourning the premature loss of yet another American legend.

"Survived my darkest hour
my faith kept me alive
I picked myself back up
hold my head up high
I was not built to break
I didn't know my own strength..."

Whitney Elizabeth Houston (1963-2012)

xo BG

Saturday, February 11, 2012

Verse of the Day

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.  Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is - his good, pleasing and perfect will.
(Romans 12:2 NIV)

xo BG

Should Real Women Stop Texting Back?

Hey y'all :))  First off let me say that I hope everyone had a wonderful week.  I have been increasingly busy with work and preparing for an amazing spring/summer.  I've got some really exciting trips planned over the next few months and I look forward to sharing some fun stories with you.

A few nights ago, I was engaged in the ever-losing battle with my arch nemesis "insomnia" when I decided to waste a little time on Twitter.  You know how it goes, you scroll through your timeline, click on a few interesting retweets and replies, and before you know it you've gotten so far from the people you actually "follow" you wonder how long it will take to get back "home".  It was the result of this aimless "Twitter surfing" that I came across something that I believe to be a true gem for all single and dating ladies out there.  In an article entitled Real Women Don't Text Back: How Women Fuel the Man-Boy Problem, blogger Ruthie Dean (click here for her blog) tackles a serious problem that is wreaking havoc on the current dating scene; the ever-present Man-Boy a.k.a "that guy".

Now I'm sure many of you, like myself, have read numerous articles and books in hopes of figuring out exactly what IS going on with men today.  In many ways it appears as though women are much more willing to be open and honest about their desires for marriage and family, while so many men are seemingly stuck in a proverbial state of arrested development.  So many times we women wonder when guys will just "get it together" and grow up, choosing to focus on their shortcomings rather than carefully critiquing our own unhealthy behavior.  Now I'll admit it, I too have been guilty of blaming the men and refusing to examine the role that I have played in creating my own less-than-fulfilling dating environment.  I, Brown Girl, can honestly say that I have been an active (and at times eager) participant in the texting epidemic.  In many instances, I have tried to avoid coming across as clingy or needy and instead have chose to just go with the flow of informal texting communication.  The truth is, such behavior was and is NOT an accurate representation of the woman I am, nor is it conducive to the kind of relationship I wish to have.  I now realize that I can't continue complaining about the difficulties of dating if I am unwilling to do anything to change them.

After reading Ruthie's article, I felt more confident than I have in a long time.  In fact, I spent a bit of time on her blog and was absolutely blown away.  I was reminded of the fact that God truly wants us to have the desires of our hearts.  I want to encourage all single women out there (including myself) to stop settling for less than what you deserve.  Live righteously, keep your standards high, and PRAY...God will take it from there :)

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, 
"plans to prosper you and not to harm you,
plans to give you hope and a future."
(Jeremiah 29:11 NIV)

I would LOVE to hear your thoughts on Ruthie's article and your overall opinions of the Man-boy epidemic.  Please comment!

xo BG

P.S.  Just a reminder for you to check out Ruthie's'll be so happy you did :))

Friday, January 13, 2012


Hey y'all :))  Ok, I have to make a quick confession, every Friday morning I wake up in the best mood and start singing Rebecca Black's Friday as loud as I possibly!!  Yes, I am fully aware of how bad/annoying the song is, but what started off as a joke between me and my sweet friend Lizzie over the summer still persists today.

I've been quite the recluse as of late, but this weekend will mark the first time (in a very loooooong time) that I'm actually going to spend time with my dear friend Jenni.  We're going to see The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo and then out for dinner and some much needed girl talk.  What do you girls have planned this weekend?  Have fun and stay safe dolls!!

xo BG

Thursday, January 12, 2012

My How Time Flies and Roll Tide

Hey y'all :))  My goodness, how long has it been?  Well, needless to say I've missed everyone SO much.  Things have been incredibly busy and hectic over the past few months but it looks like life is finally going to be slowing down a bit.  Anyway, I just wanted to say hello and touch base.  It's a very cold night in my hometown (we actually got a bit of snow last night) and I'm wrapped up watching one of my absolute favorite movies.  It seems only right considering the way 'Bama crushed LSU a few nights ago that I would be watching Sweet Home Alabama in honor of the victory.

Now, while I do not call the Yellowhammer State home, I have spent a bit of time there.  In fact, I love hearing stories from my dear mother about her college days at Mississippi State.  She begrudgingly recollects tales of the Crimson Tide rolling into Starkville only to commit some minor vandalism infractions, clobber the mighty Bulldogs, then "roll" out ;)

Anyway, I hope all of my sweet friends in the blogosphere are all doing well and are off to a great 2012.  I PROMISE PROMISE, I will be posting much more frequently.  Please stick with me ladies.

xo BG

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Still a Bridesmaid...Not YET a Bride

A few weeks ago, I received an all too familiar phone of my closest girlfriends was engaged!  Instantly, I was flooded with a mixture of emotions.  Genuine happiness and excitement for my dear friend but also the stinging sadness of wondering "when will it be my turn?".  As a type this, I can't help but feel a bit of anxiety about how this entry will be received and whether or not I will come to regret putting such personal feelings out there for judgment and scrutiny.  As much as I would like to pretend that I am content with the single life, the fact is that I am not.  I went through a pretty difficult breakup a few months ago and have not really dated since.  However, I know I need to get back out there, and I think I am ready to test the waters and see what happens.  I guess my reason for posting this (other than getting things off my chest) was to let anyone out there who has ever experienced similar feelings, you are not alone!  I never thought I would still be single at 30 but I know it isn't the end of the world.  I have faith that God will bring the right man into my life at the right time, and if a relationship is what I want all I have to do is ask and believe.  

"And whatever things you ask in prayer, believing, you will receive." 
Matthew 21:22

xo BG